Planning Your I Do
Each week we turn one stressful wedding-planning question into a manageable next step — for brides in their 20s who want clear, practical help without the pressure to make every choice perfect. Hosted with guidance from You Had Me At I Do: over 26 years and 400+ weddings as officiant and DJ.
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Episode 20
First Look or Aisle Reveal? (No Wrong Answer)
Aug 17, 2026
If you’ve spent more than ten minutes on wedding forums, you’ve seen the debate: first look or aisle reveal? Photographers have opinions. Your mother has opinions. Pinterest has a thousand images of both, and every one of them looks like the most romantic moment ever captured.
Episode 17
Registry, Cash Funds, and Gift Etiquette
Aug 13, 2026
Few topics make engaged couples as nervous as gifts. You need things for your home. You’d love help with the honeymoon. You know your aunt will have opinions no matter what you choose.
Episode 16
Your Wedding Website FAQ (So Guests Stop Texting You)
Jul 30, 2026
At some point in every wedding we’ve officiated, the couple’s phone starts buzzing with the same questions on repeat. What time should we arrive? What’s the dress code? Is there parking? Can we bring the kids? Where do we stay? Where’s the registry?
Episode 15
The RSVP Black Hole
Aug 3, 2026
You send your invitations. You wait. You check the mailbox. You refresh your wedding website dashboard. And then you stare at a guest list full of question marks while your caterer gently asks — for the third time — how many meals they should prepare.
Episode 14
Building Your Wedding Party (Without the Drama)
Aug 3, 2026
Somewhere between "We’re engaged!" and "Who’s standing up with us?" a lot of couples hit a wall. The wedding party question sounds simple — who are your bridesmaids and groomsmen? — but behind it sits a tangle of guilt, symmetry anxiety, family politics, and the quiet fear of hurting someone you love.
Episode 13
Two Families, Two Traditions (Without Choosing Sides)
Jul 21, 2026
Your wedding is where two stories become one — and if those stories come from different cultures, religions, or family traditions, the planning can feel less like a celebration and more like a diplomatic summit.
Episode 12
Too Many Opinions, One Wedding
Jul 21, 2026
Somewhere between "We’re engaged!" and "I do," almost every couple discovers a painful truth: a wedding is not just your wedding. It’s an event that dozens of people — parents, siblings, friends, future in-laws, that aunt who considers herself the family event planner — feel entitled to weigh in on.
Episode 11
When Your Partner Isn’t Planning Like You
Jul 21, 2026
You’re three months into wedding planning. You have spreadsheets. You have Pinterest boards organized by color palette. You have vendor emails flagged, unanswered, and haunting you at midnight.
Episode 10
Planner, Day-of Coordinator, or Spreadsheet?
Jul 21, 2026
One of the most common questions we hear from couples — especially those trying to save money without losing their minds — is some version of this: "Do I really need a wedding planner?"
Episode 9
Venue First — and the Rain Plan Before You Sign
Jul 14, 2026
We tell almost every couple we meet the same thing: book your venue first. Everything else — your date, your guest count, your catering style, your overall vibe — flows from that single decision.
Episode 8
Hiring Vendors You Can Actually Trust
Jul 14, 2026
After twenty-six years and more than four hundred weddings, we’ve seen the same story play out more times than we’d like: a couple falls in love with a vendor’s Instagram feed, hands over a deposit, and doesn’t discover the problems until the week of the wedding — or worse, months after.
Episode 7
Pinterest vs. Your Real Wedding
Jul 13, 2026
Pinterest didn’t ruin your wedding. But it might be ruining your planning peace.
Episode 6
Plus-Ones, Kids, and Clear Invitation Rules
Jul 13, 2026
Somewhere between "save the date" and "I didn’t know I couldn’t bring my boyfriend of six months," every couple hits the plus-one conversation.
Episode 5
When Parents Pay — and the Opinions Follow
Jul 12, 2026
Generous parents are a blessing. And sometimes, generous parents are a challenge.
Episode 4
Guest List Guilt (and How to Cut It Without Cutting People Off)
Jul 12, 2026
If you’ve ever lain awake at two in the morning wondering whether you have to invite your coworker’s spouse, or your second cousin once removed, or your mom’s friend who watched you once at age four — you’re not alone.
Episode 2
Just Engaged — Now What? (Before You Book Anything)
Jul 10, 2026
Congratulations. If you’re reading this with a new ring on your finger and a thousand tabs open on your phone, we want to say something simple first: you do not have to figure out your entire wedding this week.
Episode 1
Using AI for Your Vows: Refine, Don’t Replace
Jul 9, 2026
It’s two weeks before the wedding. You open a blank document. You type "I promise to love you forever" and immediately delete it because it sounds like a greeting card wrote it. So you open ChatGPT — or Claude, or Gemini, or whatever app your cousin swears by — and you type: Write wedding vows for me.
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