Wedding vows
Promise what you can actually mean.
Write your own vows, repeat traditional promises, answer simple questions, or combine approaches. The best format is the one that lets both of you feel comfortable and sincere.
Vow styles and examples.
Simple repeat-after-me
I choose you as my partner. I promise to listen, to be honest, to make room for joy, and to stand beside you through whatever comes next.
Short and direct
I love you. I choose you. I promise to be your partner, your encourager, and your home for all the days we are given.
Shared vows
We promise to speak with care, repair what we can, celebrate each other fully, and keep building a home where both of us can belong.
Traditional tone
I take you to be my spouse, to have and to hold from this day forward, in joy and in difficulty, in plenty and in want, for as long as we both shall live.
Personal vows
Begin with what you love and understand about your partner. Include a brief memory, name two or three promises you can actually live, and end with the future you are choosing together.
Private personal vows plus shared ceremony vows
Read your longer personal vows privately before the ceremony, then make a concise shared promise in front of your guests. This works well when one or both partners prefer intimacy.
Keep personal vows balanced.
- Aim for similar length without forcing identical styles
- Include real promises—not only compliments or memories
- Keep private jokes understandable or save them for a letter
- Read the vows aloud and remove words you would never naturally say
Your private Vow Workshop keeps drafts separate and provides gentle length guidance without revealing either person’s words.
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We’ll help these choices fit together.
Your ceremony plan keeps the words, people, and cues connected.
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